Alarmed in Aurora

Dear Jim,

In over 40 years of driving, I was so proud to have never even been pulled over by a police officer. I had never been involved in a car accident, gotten a traffic ticket, nothing. I was the epitome of safe driving. I never drank alcohol and drove; I always came to a complete stop at stop signs; I never drove more than five miles per hour over the speed limit; I always wore my seatbelt when driving. 

But one day last week, it was a beautiful day out here in Aurora. It’s springtime and I had the windows rolled all the way down. I was driving near these big, open farm fields on my way to my daughter’s house to celebrate my grandson’s first birthday party, and I was listening to my favorite pop song, “Rock Your Body” by Justin Timberlake on the radio.

Suddenly, this police officer is speeding up behind me with his flashing lights and pulls me over. So now I’m feeling very nervous. There weren’t any other cars on the road, but somehow I was driving 15 mph over the 40 mph speed limit. 

I thought for sure the police officer would just give me a warning since I’ve always been such a good driver, but instead he wrote me a $500 ticket for reckless driving! I’m on social security and I don’t have that kind of money to spend. What do you think I should do?

Thanks,

Alarmed in Aurora

 

Dear Alarmed,

I must say, I am quite proud of you for going over 40 years without having ever been pulled over or issued a traffic citation. With that being said, given the information you have provided me, I believe that the police officer was out of line in having issued you such a huge ticket. It doesn’t sound to me like you were driving recklessly. Have you considered reaching out to an Aurora speeding ticket lawyer to fight the ticket? I wouldn’t just pay the fine and move on with your life since the ticket is so high. 

If you pay it, you’re basically accepting guilt and this could cause your auto insurance to skyrocket when it’s time to renew your policy. Better to be safe than sorry and fight this ticket, especially given your impeccable driving record. Keep us posted; I’m curious to know what happens for you next!

 

Take care,

Jim

Torn-Up in Tampa

Dear Jim,

I’m really struggling today and wasn’t sure what to do. My boyfriend and I are expecting our first baby, and we’re both really excited about it. We both currently work in an Amazon warehouse, but it’s really starting to wear me down at almost 30 weeks pregnant. My boyfriend is super supportive and we have toyed with the idea of me being a stay-at-home mom after our little girl arrives. 

Here’s the problem, though: we were having a conversation, and I may have eluded to the fact that I don’t trust him to support the three of us on just his income. I think I really hurt his feelings. The thing is, it isn’t even really him that I don’t trust, but it’s that I’m not used to having to rely on anyone financially. We don’t have a joint bank account, we each pay our own bills, and we rarely discuss finances. So, I know his feelings were hurt, but I don’t know what to do next. Please help.

Thanks,

Torn-Up in Tampa

 

Dear Torn-Up,

Thank you for writing in, and congratulations on your pregnancy. I’d like to answer your question about what to do by sharing a story about the time I had to call a Tampa personal injury lawyer

I was visiting Tampa with my daughter and my bulldog, Gus. We were walking along the water and passed a group of kids. The kids all wanted to pet Gus and he ended up biting one of them in the hand. It wasn’t a serious bite, but just to be sure, I took a free consultation with the lawyer so I knew what could happen. 

The next day, I called the child’s mom to check-in and see how the kid was doing. I asked her if I could stop by (alone this time) to apologize to the child in person. She gave me her address and I picked up some action figures, sidewalk chalk, bubbles, and other toys I thought he might enjoy. I told both the mom and the son how sorry I was and I offered to pay for a check-up at the doctor if she needed it. She declined, but I gave her my number just in case.

How does this relate to your case? 

It’s important that you apologize to your boyfriend for hurting his feelings. You need to be open with him and let him know why you said what you said. It may also be a good idea to have a discussion about finances if you are living together and raising a child together. Honesty and openness are the best policies in a happy, healthy relationship.

Take care,

Jim